Me before you…

I’m a sucker for a love story. As soon as I saw the trailer for this film, I was hooked. I knew I had to see it…and today was that day. As someone who is in love with love stories you have to get your priorities in order. Now the first thing you have to work out is if its going to be upsetting in parts. If it is, you need to choose your company wisely. After all you do NOT want to go with someone who has never seen you cry before. This means this is defiantly not a film for first dates…unless of course they are ‘into’ sweaty, blotchy, crying women…in which case run away before you guarantee a second date they may be a bit too weird. So grab any of your girlfriends, get to the cinema, and be ready to fall in love, have your heartbroken and feel the need to live your life fuller than ever…all in the space of an hour and fifty.

If there’s anything that this film gives to you, it’s courage. Courage to live your life, fall in love again, explore the world, and most importantly take chances…or at least that’s what I got from it. Everything about this film for me was perfect from the story line to the director and especially the actors, it was just perfect. The performances given by Emilia Clarke and Sam Claflin were amazing! The belief and passion in their eyes for each other was remarkable, even that was enough to make anyone believe in the story. Maybe even a little bit too much…now the only thing the women who have watched this film need is for it to happen in real life.

‘The Woman in Black’ and other drama

I love theatre. I have done since I was young. Every year at christmas we’d go to the theatre, to see a pantomime…and every year I’d fall more and more in love. It wasn’t just the idea of going to the theatre, it was everything. The atmosphere, the architecture, the people, the characters, the story being told, and from the actors side the way you could be someone completely different to yourself as soon as you set foot on stage.

When I was eleven I approached my mum outside in the front garden and announced proudly “I know what I want to be when I grow up…I want to be an actor on stage”. At the time this didn’t seem like a big thing, but as I look back on it this is the only thing I’ve ever said I really want to do career wise. Which is strange because I’ve never been career driven, but this I seemed sure about. As soon as my mum heard this she was thrilled. She’s always loved theatre too, so I think the main excitement came from the fact we had something massive in common; as I’d always been a daddies girl until then.

The first thing she did was search for me to join an amateur dramatics club, and lucky for me my next door neighbour had a friend that was involved in one close by. This was the start of my ‘career’ as an actor. From this I went onto taking part in 7 amazing shows, including both pantomimes and musicals (to which I was a Dalek in one…random but best time of my life). As I got older it became clearer that I was out growing the drama group, however by this time I had begun taking my GCSE’s and of course Drama was one of my choices. I love drama at GCSE! It taught me so much about the different types of drama and opened me up to new genres which I thought were so much better than pantomimes, for example Shakespeare. As my knowledge in drama increased so did my love for it, and by the time I reached A-Levels and was able to devise my own play (with the help of a group) and I was certain that this was the type of thing I wanted to do at University…

Anyway during my GCSE’s there was the chance to go on a school trip to see ‘The Woman in Black’ at the Lyceum Theatre in Sheffield (just as a side note this was before the film came out and made it a massive thing). I signed up and off we went. I arrived with an open mind not knowing what to expect really, as the teachers hadn’t given me a brief as to what the play would be about but Oh. My. God. It was incredible!!! This performance was the one and only time I’ve ever seen a horror being brought to stage with such perfection and atmosphere! The fear being built up throughout the play was amazing. One by one you could see the audience being dragged into the fear of the woman in black. The way that she shocked each and every one of us as she floated through the audience in an eerie manner.

I have to say with a cast of only two people (three if you count the woman in black), a minimal set and a mimed dog it is by far the best performance I have ever seen, and I dare say I will ever see. It just captured in me in such a way that my heart will never be set free from the theatre. This was definitely a turning point for me and my love for theatre. Sadly since then I have lost my way with the whole acting thing but this will always be something that I feel strongly about…and If I ever do feel like going back into acting I always have an agency’s number in my phonebook…

Hopes for love…

The 1997 film Titanic taught me a lot about love. Being a young age when it came out on ‘video’ means this was the first real influence I had about a different type of love. Much different from the love between family members. In fact to be specific it showed me two different types of love.

The first and most evident is the love between Jack and Rose. I call this the ‘Dreamers Love’, quite simply because those who dream of finding and keeping love mainly have this type in mind. The kind of love where you heart skips a beat whenever they enter the room, where they make you forget everyone and everything around you and where most of all you’ll do everything you can to be with and stay with that person. Throughout the film we see this, and through the scenes shared with Rose’s mother or Cal we can see a very strong contrast between the love she receives and the love she wants and deserves.

The second type of love you see in Titanic is a controlling kind of love. Where it appears only one person is in love, and therefore has a lot of anger towards the other. However I’m sure Cal’s actions towards Rose isn’t just because she doesn’t love him. As Cal has a lot of money (meaning lots of power), he believes he also has the ability to control everyone around him by buying them. Which is no kind of love I particularly desire, and in the end he realises that love doesn’t work like that. That eventually the person being forced into submission will always break free.

I think this film in particular influenced a lot of people of all ages and all over the world about their views on love. Not just because of the story line and the characters, but also due to the actors relationships. Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet clearly have a great bond and friendship, which allowed them to work together comfortably meaning the overall relationship between the characters Jack and Rose was very believable. In a way I think many couples would aspire to be like that, maybe more so from a females point of view.

The main thing I personally took from the film is how love can be, but not always is… maybe this is just me being overly hopeful, but I don’t think anyone should settle for any less than what Jack and Rose portrayed. You may not find love as soon as you want to, but don’t give up. I believe everyone can find something like this. Someone who can save you from the worst situations possible (maybe not literally like Jack but you get the idea). Keeping searching…

“Love each other or perish,” Morrie Said. “It’s good, no? And it’s so true. Without love, we are birds with broken wings.” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie.