Brace yourself…Autumn is here!

I love Autumn. You still get some warm days, but other days you can pull out your beanie hat and not have to worry about doing you hair…at least I don’t. Anyway there are a few things I always like to do and stock up on as soon as Autumn hits…so without further ado here it is!

  1. A Haircut – I know this is a monthly thing to have done but as soon as Autumn hits, I get the urge to do something different with my hair. Last year it was putting in a full fringe, and this years I’m thinking about changing the length to a bit shorter than I’ve normally been…although I do think I’d like to have my fringe put back in…maybe next month.
  2. Hats – These are one of the best inventions ever in my opinion. They keep your ears warm, hide the bush that I call hair, make you look cute…occasionally. What more could you want!
  3. Fluffy Socks – Come on. Who doesn’t already have these! Even if it’s not cold I wear these, but in Autumn I NEED them. They’re great with boots, and even better when snuggled under a blanket watching a film and eating chocolate…anyway.
  4. Lip Balm – this is definitely a necessity! Who wants dry lips? Especially with eczema. Not good, so even if it’s not that cold I have to prepare for colder days.
  5. Boots – This is actually one thing I hate about autumn, having to find a good pair of boots. It’s just so hard finding the right height so your legs don’t look fat, the right heel size, the right colour ugh so many different specifications! But once you find ‘THE’ pair, your autumn outfits are complete!
  6. Moisturiser – this definitely applies to me because like I said earlier I suffer with eczema. So again you have to be prepared. You have to look after your skin as much as possible before winter hits, especially your face!
  7. Films/TV programs – This is where Netflix is brilliant! As soon as autumn hits it’s as if I’m permanently in my PJ’s from the moment I get home from work. And what better way to entertain myself than having a film fest! There’s a full list of films I’ve wanted to see but never got round to, so autumn gives me the perfect chance to do this!
  8. Tights – I love Jeans but jeans only look good so many days in a row, and of course it’s too cold to wear dresses or skirts bare-legged so the solution is tights! Warm, fluffy, thermal tights!

That’s just a basic list of my necessities from Autumn anyway, I’m sure there’s plenty more that I’ve forgotten! Anyway Bring on the cold!!!

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August Highs and Lows

I don’t want to dwell on this too much because I’ve covered a lot in this months posts. There’s always going to be highs and lows to every month…but in comparison this has been an average month. I have nothing to complain about or preach about, that I haven’t already. So Instead I shall leave this month with a quote…

“There is no black-and-white situation. It’s all part of life. Highs, lows, middles.” – Van Morrison

What I miss…

Like most university students I moved away from home. This was after I stayed at home and travelled for the first year, and then decided it wasn’t for me. But for the two years that I lived in Sheffield, I honestly loved it. I loved having my own space, with my own freedom to do whatever I wanted no matter what time it was. I mean don’t get me wrong, I did miss seeing my family everyday…but I had so much more independence. I can even say I enjoyed being able to do my own washing…how weird is that?

I even fell in love with Sheffield itself. It had so much to offer than my hometown. Better jobs, better atmosphere, better theatres, everything. In a way because I’ve returned home now, I yearn for this freedom I had never experienced before going to university. I’d love to move out again no matter where I moved to…but it’s a bit hard when you’re attempting to save for other things like travelling, not to mention having to fix a broken car. In some ways I feel like my life’s on hold a bit…but sacrifices must be made I guess.

What if…

Okay so I was hesitant to do this post because lately only one thing of ‘what if’ has been on my mind. And this ‘what if’ includes my ex.

Today would have marked one year that me and my ex had been going out. So It’s funny how this is the day for this particular topic. What’s also strange is that my Mac decided to remind me that it would have been one year today…not sure how that happened because I don’t remember setting a reminder. Oh and to top it off a guy who was the spitting image of my ex came into my place of work yesterday, strange the coincidence but whatever.

So what if? What if I hadn’t broken up with him due to me not feeling like he didn’t trust me? What if that was the one and only person to ever truly love everything about me and I kicked them out of my life? What If we had stayed together, then moved in together and even had a ‘happily ever after’. It’s a difficult one. Firstly because in his opinion he hadn’t done anything and therefore nothing had to be fixed. And secondly because I was lost. I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life and for me I had to figure that out before I could be happy in any way with anyone…to which I’m still quite unsure.

But it doesn’t stop you wondering what if? What if things had worked out differently and he still wanted me in his life in someway. There’s always questions left unanswered…that’s life.

So what if? That’s it. A question. Left unanswered.

Moving Onwards and Upwards

For a few months now I’ve been waiting for something to happen at work…a promotion. But in life, we don’t always get what we think we are going to get. In a way I’m angry about that. Not because I lost out on the opportunity, but because it held me back from doing other things that would have made me happier. By now if I had left this job when I had the chance, I could have probably already saved up some money I needed to go travelling. Which of course is annoying. Never the less, eventually we always end up on the road we belong on…That road for me is travelling, and creating.

In a way I’m glad this happened, because after all everything is a learning experience. I have more skills now then what I did. I had more time to think things over in terms of where I want to go. I also had more time to realise that I have other options that I didn’t even know existed. So there are ups and downs to the situation I’ve found myself in.

Anyway to kickstart my ‘new lease of life’ as I’m calling it. I have decided I am opening up my own horizons; and the first step of this is by claiming I am a photographer. Just to say I am being truthful when doing so…I know I said claiming but that’s just because I know I’m nowhere near as professional as those who are actual photographers. I’ve set up a new instagram page soley for this purpose, and also a Facebook page so I will leave links if anyone’s interested. That’s all for now 🙂 I just needed a little rant and a boost.

P.S I used to be just a man…now I am a man with a plan!

P.P.S (Just for clarification I am in fact a woman) 🙂

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Eczema VS Sun-beds

So I’ve suffered from eczema since I was born. As I got older it seemed to of got more and more controllable, to the point where it was just seasonal and only really became visible in winter due to the sudden change of climate. However this year it doesn’t seem to be going away, and nothing seems to be helping clear it up.

Winter has come and gone and by March my skin would usually of gone back to its normal self. But for some reason this year it just won’t budge. I feel like I’ve tried everything. Different moistursers, steroid creams, bath ointments, and many more treatments. So like with any question I can’t answer, I took to the internet. There was suggestion, after suggestion but the one that caught my eye was to try using a sun-bed.

Now I know the risks of using a sun-bed…but due to my eczema mainly being due to the climate, and me feeling like I’m out of options I thought I should give it a go. So far I’ve only had 4 sessions, each of 6 minutes. But I honestly think it is beginning to help. My skin feels better and definitely looks better with the red patches disappearing, giving me a bit more self-confidence (because let’s be honest having people stare at you, and wonder why you look like a human leopard isn’t exactly a confidence booster). I mean I’m in no way getting a ‘great’ tan from this as I still look quite pale, but as long as my eczema is getting better I don’t mind.

Just as a side note this isn’t a long-term treatment at all and as soon as I feel happy that majority of it has cleared up, I will stop using the sun-beds. Anyway I’ll keep you updated, feel free to give me any feedback or even any suggestions if you or anyone you know struggles with eczema and what they use to clear it up.

 “People will stare . Make it worth their while” – Harry Winston.

What women want…

The simplest way to answer this is…truth be told most of us really don’t know. Or if we do…then we’ve probably over thought it and therefore now want too much.

A woman’s mind is always changing…mainly because we think way too much into things, and then by doing so we create other options to answer the question…even if we’ve already chosen something else. One day we will want one thing and the next day it will change. To be honest there is no real logic.

Now I know there’s already way too many jokes about this topic, and that it’s already been overly talked about including the repeated Gif of Ryan Gosling from the film ‘The Notebook’ (What do you want? God damn it, what do you want!). Fair enough that was originally about love, but girls do put way too much thought in the most simplest things…even where to go for lunch! It seems even worse when two girls get together. The simple question of lunch leads to a game of verbal tennis, where the term “I don’t know, you pick” gets thrown back and forth continuously until they reach the conclusion of the option given right at the start.

I’d like to say there’s an easy solution for all of this…but there isn’t. I could even attempt to make you believe that one day this wont be an issue anymore, as if it’s proven by scientific research that girls will evolve to enable them to stop doing this. But again sadly this isn’t something that will happen, you just have to learn to live with it. Either way though there are no winners. From a girl’s point of view you realise how annoying it can be, and can attempt to control in some way but never completely. Then from a guy’s point of view… there’s sadly nothing you can do but make sure the girl who’s having to make decisions around you is one you love very dearly, and therefore you can put up with the frustrations surrounding them. Otherwise for the guy there may be a long road of sadness and annoyance to come.

I think the only real piece of advice you can take from this blog is to never try to understand the way a woman’s mind for decision-making works! Your life is a lot easier and happier when you don’t concern yourself with the confusion, and like I said frustration that comes with all of this!

“You can’t get stuck on what should have happened. That doesn’t help you.” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie.