A night at the cinema…

I don’t know wether it’s due to my heart being a gentle soul or the fact that I’m a girl and we have a lot of hormones…or it could be just down to the genes I’m made up from. But for me going to the cinema or the theatre is a rollercoaster…when it comes to emotions at least.

Depending on what film or performance you go to see, you can experience love, passion, anger, fear, amusement, and of course sadness…all within the space of a couple of hours! When you think about it, all of them emotions you have just experienced is a bit like the emotions you could feel over a two year relationship…which in my opinion is pretty impressive to say the least. The ability to manipulate your feelings, to apply it to the current situations of the main character. Not to mention you could do it all over again the following day or even the following week. Learning a new story everytime, through observing other’s lives (well, acted out lives). Experiencing all of that through emotions, basically without the actual impact of drama of it all.

It’s all pretty incredible…but of course if we only ever lived through films and performances, then we’d never really allow ourselves the chance to actually live. Which you know, is what life is really about. Living, experiencing, feeling. Let’s be honest though…It’s perfect if you need an escape for a hour or two.

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Heart Strings Songs

I don’t know if this applies to men, but us girls sometimes have days where we just like to rock out to all the sad love songs, that pull on our heart strings (hence the blog title). So this is a list of my favourite heartbreaking love songs…followed by a list of ‘get over it’ songs… enjoy.

The heartbreak section:

  • Big Girls Don’t Cry – Fergie
  • I Will Always Love You – Whitney Houston
  • Perfect – Pink
  • Jar of Hearts – Christina Perri
  • Someone Like You – Adele
  • Total Eclipse Of The Heart – Bonnie Tyler
  • Somebody That I Used To Know – Gotye
  • Since You’ve Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson
  • Torn – Natalie Imbruglia
  • Hunger – Of Monsters And Men
  • The Scientist – Coldplay
  • Just Be – Paloma Faith
  • Nothing Compares 2 U – Sinead O’Connor

The follow up:

  • Break Free – Ariana Grande ft. Zedd
  • Ugly Heart – G.R.L
  • R U Crazy – Conor Maynard
  • Raise A Glass – Pink
  • Part Of Me – Katy Perry
  • What The Hell – Avril Lavigne
  • Love Yourself – Justin Bieber
  • Roar – Katy Perry
  • Forget You – Cee Lo Green
  • I Will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
  • Stronger – Kelly Clarkson
  • Best Thing I Never Had – Beyonce
  • Problem – Ariana Grande ft. Iggy Azalea

The five ways to win my heart…

Option number 1: Cat videos. I love cat videos. Whether they’re funny, cute, or even a bit weird, I love them all. There’s a high chance I’ve seen all of them, but if I’m ever down this is a sure way to pick me back up instantly.

Option number 2: Food. I’ll pretty much eat anything, but the definite wooing foods are chocolate, chicken, ice cream (mint choc chip), corn on the cob, bacon, pancakes, watermelon,pea and ham soup, buttered bread, maybe even the odd mini kiev.

Option number 3: Sleep. I like sleep….lots. So there’s a few ways to go about this, you can either let me have a nice long lie in, or let me fall asleep in a warm place. For extra brownie points you could even make a little den filled with a hot water bottle and snacks for a midnight feast.

Option number 4: Films. I’m always open to seeing new films…or old films depending on the production date. So if you have a good film choice and it makes its way into my top 50, your onto a winner!

Option number 5: Travel. This one’s more of an expensive option. But let’s be honest if I had an opportunity to go travelling right now, I’d take it in a heartbeat. Wherever, whenever! So let’s travel!

A Desperate Heart…

“A desperate heart will seduce the mind” – Mitch Albom

I know I’m going back to Mitch Albom once again, but I honestly love his work. I think he is so smart, and speaks so much truth. For me Mitch Albom is my Morrie Schwartz.

When reading ‘The Time Keeper’ this quote in particular hit me the hardest. I haven’t always been the best version of myself, neither have people around me. But in times of need we lead ourselves to believe we deserve the love we get. When in reality that love could be fake or even doing more harm than good. I know all advice in life starts with the saying ‘follow your heart’ but to be honest your heart isn’t always right. Especially when its fragile or even being manipulated.

In the start of a relationship sometimes you can see it as an escape from bad stuff in other areas of your life…but at some point it can change. Maybe to the extent of the relationship having the opposite effect, and can even do more emotional damage rather than be emotional support. And this can of course be due to a number of reasons. I mean no situation is exactly the same. This ties into a different quote… “We accept the love that we think we deserve.” 

For some reason at some point in life, our minds may tell ourselves that we aren’t good enough. Whether it’s a physical thing or a mental thing. It can happen, and it may not even give you any warning (which of course sucks). You might just not have any self-confidence in yourself, leading you to choose to stay in that situation because of fear. I know you may think choice doesn’t come into it when it’s up against a fear. Fear you won’t find better, fear you aren’t good enough for anyone or anything but you are. If you spoke to friends or family they would tell you exactly that. You are good enough, you are better, and you should never, ever allow anyone to make you feel like your not.

The main point of this post is you have to realise. That’s the first step. Realise you’re in a bad situation and be brave enough to get yourself out of it and get back on the road to recovery. It could be a case that it isn’t even that bad of a situation, and there could be a solution to make the situation better… but If you think you can relate to this post in any way, listen to me when I say this you deserve better. So don’t let your desperate heart seduce your mind, it might be hard at first but you aren’t alone at all. There will be a whole support system you just haven’t uncovered yet.

That’s just my take on the quote anyway, everyone’s view will be different…maybe I thought too much into it *blushes*. Ohh well 🙂

Hopes for love…

The 1997 film Titanic taught me a lot about love. Being a young age when it came out on ‘video’ means this was the first real influence I had about a different type of love. Much different from the love between family members. In fact to be specific it showed me two different types of love.

The first and most evident is the love between Jack and Rose. I call this the ‘Dreamers Love’, quite simply because those who dream of finding and keeping love mainly have this type in mind. The kind of love where you heart skips a beat whenever they enter the room, where they make you forget everyone and everything around you and where most of all you’ll do everything you can to be with and stay with that person. Throughout the film we see this, and through the scenes shared with Rose’s mother or Cal we can see a very strong contrast between the love she receives and the love she wants and deserves.

The second type of love you see in Titanic is a controlling kind of love. Where it appears only one person is in love, and therefore has a lot of anger towards the other. However I’m sure Cal’s actions towards Rose isn’t just because she doesn’t love him. As Cal has a lot of money (meaning lots of power), he believes he also has the ability to control everyone around him by buying them. Which is no kind of love I particularly desire, and in the end he realises that love doesn’t work like that. That eventually the person being forced into submission will always break free.

I think this film in particular influenced a lot of people of all ages and all over the world about their views on love. Not just because of the story line and the characters, but also due to the actors relationships. Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet clearly have a great bond and friendship, which allowed them to work together comfortably meaning the overall relationship between the characters Jack and Rose was very believable. In a way I think many couples would aspire to be like that, maybe more so from a females point of view.

The main thing I personally took from the film is how love can be, but not always is… maybe this is just me being overly hopeful, but I don’t think anyone should settle for any less than what Jack and Rose portrayed. You may not find love as soon as you want to, but don’t give up. I believe everyone can find something like this. Someone who can save you from the worst situations possible (maybe not literally like Jack but you get the idea). Keeping searching…

“Love each other or perish,” Morrie Said. “It’s good, no? And it’s so true. Without love, we are birds with broken wings.” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie.

Lost.

Honestly…right now I feel lost.

Lost with myself, lost with where I’m going in life, lost in general. And in my personal experience when people feel lost, they begin to search for someone who can make them feel safe, feel found in a sense. Even a sense of security. Now in truth in the past I’ve known people do this, and I’ve often thought about doing this myself due to how magical love appears to be. But I think a different approach would be more suited to me right now, and this is also something many people suggest. Find yourself. Be happy with yourself.

With this I don’t necessarily mean be alone until I feel found (if that’s even a thing), because friends and family are always important. I mainly just mean I am not going to jump into a relationship, because in a relationship you have to think of both people and right now I need to be a little bit selfish. Plus saying that if you can’t be selfish right now then when can you? Because as the years go by there becomes a pressure to get into a relationship and make plans with that person. Starting from where to go on holiday together, to getting married and having kids. And that all means being completely considerate and that’s just not for me right now.

My main focuses are really to just find out more things about myself, stuff that I’ve never discovered. New passions, new skills, even new desires. Maybe I will also lose some bad habits I’ve acquired through other people, which wouldn’t be a bad thing. Alongside all of this though I will still be living in the real world and will aim to get another job so I can get money together to go travelling to all the places I’ve dreamed of. So now is the time. Time to leap and see what happens. Wish me luck.

“No matter what you’re trying, even if you fail in the beginning and people say you’re no good, don’t listen to them; Just listen to your own heart.” – Mitch Albom