Me before you…

I’m a sucker for a love story. As soon as I saw the trailer for this film, I was hooked. I knew I had to see it…and today was that day. As someone who is in love with love stories you have to get your priorities in order. Now the first thing you have to work out is if its going to be upsetting in parts. If it is, you need to choose your company wisely. After all you do NOT want to go with someone who has never seen you cry before. This means this is defiantly not a film for first dates…unless of course they are ‘into’ sweaty, blotchy, crying women…in which case run away before you guarantee a second date they may be a bit too weird. So grab any of your girlfriends, get to the cinema, and be ready to fall in love, have your heartbroken and feel the need to live your life fuller than ever…all in the space of an hour and fifty.

If there’s anything that this film gives to you, it’s courage. Courage to live your life, fall in love again, explore the world, and most importantly take chances…or at least that’s what I got from it. Everything about this film for me was perfect from the story line to the director and especially the actors, it was just perfect. The performances given by Emilia Clarke and Sam Claflin were amazing! The belief and passion in their eyes for each other was remarkable, even that was enough to make anyone believe in the story. Maybe even a little bit too much…now the only thing the women who have watched this film need is for it to happen in real life.

Single on Valentine’s 

Ok so Valentine’s Day is upon us, and although this is a day/evening for couple’s to celebrate romances old and new…this post is mainly for all the single people out there.

Now even though we’re single, there are still ways we can celebrate Valentine’s Day alone..and the chances are that when it gets to the end of the night, we are probably feeling a hell of a lot more satisfied and relaxed than a lot of couple’s will out there. So to make it simple this is my guide to kick ass on Valentine’s Day! Just as a disclaimer I am no expert at being single, but I do know how to have a great night in…so let’s get started with my way to be single on Valentine’s day.

Ok first things first FOOD. I love food and the perks of being single is that you can eat whatever the heck you want, without having to consider anyone else likes or dislikes. Pizza, Nandos, Chinese, Curry…the possibilities are endless. Hey even if you can choose, you could just have a bit of everything. All to yourself. Another great reason for being single is that you don’t have to share with anyone! I could have Ice cream with pancakes for dessert and I could eat it all with no distractions. PERFECT!

The next thing on my agenda after I get food sorted is down time. You want to be relaxed and comfy obviously. So take a bath, light some candles, get a glass of wine (or whatever you like to drink) and just relax. No need to think or worry about what you need to do, or keeping anyone else happy. Just focus on you. Then after you’ve turned into a wrinkly prune get out of the bath and into the fluffiest, most unsexy pyjama’s you have and snuggle up on the sofa.

Onto number three, now by this point in a relationship you’d either be arguing or getting ‘down to business’, sooo let’s grab our hot buff celebrity crush and throw on a romcom. Filled with highs and lows including arguments, conflict, comedy, upset, nudity, and of course sex. What more could you want from entertainment on a night in alone? Basic but brilliant. On a different note if your not into films, why not read a book or even hop onto the Xbox and play a bit of Fallout 4 for that survivor/defender inside of you.

Ok so the night is coming to a end now…but maybe your feeling a bit unfulfilled still? wondering what to do with yourself before bed? How about….some internet shopping! Maybe you saw a top or a dress you wanted last time you went shopping, or even just fancy a little pick me up. The internet is there! With deals, and offers and overall pretty things to buy. So why not? Then after you can relax into a nice warm bed (with your electric blanket) and drift of into a peaceful sleep.

And there you have it! The day is over and you can go back to your everyday life, with the blissful memory of having a nice relaxing valentines with your one true love (you)! Anyway that’s just my perfect day. Feel free to leave me any comments or feedback about have you’d spend your Valentine’s day evening and I hope you kick ass.

 

August In London

I’ve been to London many times before. Many times this year even. But this time was different…for a number of reasons.

One I was going with someone I’d never been with before, two I was spending a lot of the time travelling around on my own on the tube, and three it was a bit more spontaneous. Now I’ll begin with the last point. I am a planner. I write stuff down, I circle places I’m going, I make a note of which tube lines and tube stations and even roughly how long it would take me to get there. I don’t know why…maybe its how I’m brought up. But I have to say wandering around London with nowhere to go and nothing really in mind to do was…nice. Watching all the busy people rush past with places to be and a time to be there for, it’s as if I was in slow motion as life was speeding past. In a way that for me was relaxing. I guess this is the first step of me trying to get out of planner mode…or at least be a little bit more flexible.

Now onto the travelling alone section. I’m used to travelling alone. I do it a lot at home, on the bus, on trains or even just walking. But London. To point out the obvious London is massive. Meaning it’s very VERY easy to get lost, and with me only being small it makes it even easier. I mean on one hand I was excited to go to London just to disappear into the crowds, lose myself a bit. But in reality getting lost in London isn’t something I planned on doing. The scary bit for me wasn’t the walking around. The fear was the underground. I’ve seen ‘The Creep’ and I am open to the possibilities of monsters that live down there (even though it is a bit far fetched) so travelling alone was worrying at times. On the serious side of things though I saw the London Bombings back in 2005 and being down there with no reception and no way of telling someone I love them in the last few minutes is of course terrifying to anyone who takes the time to think about it. Maybe it’s because I’m a girl. I mean we all must know by now majority of girls think way too into things. But still you have to be prepared for the worst, otherwise you will panic if it ever did happen.

To go back to the first point I made about why this time was different. Like I said I went with someone I’d never been with before. I think this was the most important part of what made the trip as good as it was.

“Most of us all walk around as if we’re sleepwalking. We really don’t experience the world fully, because we’re half-asleep, doing things we automatically think we have to do.” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie.

What films don’t tell you about love…

I have always been a hopeless romantic…

I believe it’s mainly due to films I’ve watched while growing up. Romeo and Juliet, Titanic, The Notebook, Dirty Dancing, Shakespeare in Love, Aladdin, the list could go on. Through all of these films we tend to see a lot of differences within the themes. Whether its the time period, the class of the different characters or even the realism of what happens in the film. But the one thing I’ve noticed in recent years is that majority of romantic films show just one type of love no matter what the variables are they class love as a collective feeling with no depth.

Now this is fair enough when your a teenage girl dreaming of Romeo scaling the walls to your house to steal a goodnight kiss. But as you grow up and begin to live your life making mistakes along the way, you come to realize that there isn’t just one type of love. I know what you might be thinking, all of those films do show different types of love. Enchanted love, forbidden love, love that lasts a lifetime. But that’s not exactly the types of love I mean. What I really mean is how the emotions, and your general idea of love can mean different things between you and different partners.

This isn’t something films really prepare you for as the way that films lay it out is that there is only one true love for each person. So if you lose that love, whether it’s due to growing apart or them being taken away by an illness that’s it. Gone forever…but that’s not true. I admit it will take some people longer then others to find something they can call love again, but it will happen. The only thing to remember is that when it does, do not hold back in fear of getting hurt.

After all love doesn’t have to be forever, feelings can change as often as seasons. Just as long as your true to yourself. If you feel it then let it be known. An expression of love is not written in stone and comes with no guarantee of anything other then right now. Take a chance.

““Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.”” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie.