Not to get philosophical but sometimes in life you lose your way on the dusty path of life. No matter what happens to get you there, in the end you always have to attempt to pick yourself up before you get suffocated by the world. In the beginning it will always seem impossible, but you just have to keep trying. In my experience there are a few things to bare in mind while trying to find your way back…
1. Don’t do it alone – In my opinion this is the most important. The easiest thing in your mind will be to block everyone out, but the easiest option is rarely the best option. You will always have people around you who will care about you. No matter how much you try to push them away the most loyal friends and family will be there for you especially when times are hard. So just speak your mind. A problem shared, is normally a problem halved and talking really helps. If you aren’t comfortable talking to a person then try a pet. After all, animals are the best listeners.
2. Do things that make you happy – Now this step doesn’t work for everyone. In some cases when people lose their way, they lose their way with everything. People, hobbies, everything they ever knew. The only thing you can do is try. Try and gain back the love and happiness you felt by doing certain things. So whether its a sport you used to be involved in, or just taking a simple stroll. Attempt to ease yourself back into it a bit at a time and maybe this will contribute to finding your way back.
3. Try exploring new things – this may be an alternative to number two or it may be an add on. When something serious happens to make you lose your way, you may find it best to leave the old you behind and take an opportunity to reinvent yourself. Even branch out to try something you’ve always wanted to, but always had an excuse not to. You should try. Maybe not all at once but be as open minded as possible, as you never know what can happen and surprise you.
4. A good diet – I know this seems unnecessary but as people say if you look after your body, it will look after you. It has been proven by a few studies that eating more healthily can instantly put you in a better mood due to a increase in serotonin levels. This suggests that if you eat better foods it may give you more motivation to get back out there, and into the world a day at a time. This may not be true for you…but you’ll never know unless you try. So if you stopped eating, start again. Or if your just eating junk food, stop and go get some real food which will probably also work out cheaper too.
5.Exercise – Now this is probably the last thing on your mind out of them all, but it could also be one of the most important. Although exercise may seem boring and tiring, after a while you will begin to see the benefits of it. Also the exercise you do doesn’t have to be strenuous. It could just be a bit of yoga for as little at 15 minutes a day. Anything really that will be useful to you. This won’t only keep you busy, but it can motivate you to do more and also help you get you fitter as you go along which is always a benefit.
The final thing I would suggest is to find a space of your own. This doesn’t mean move out of your family home or wherever your living. This could be a space anywhere, whether its big or small (it could even be a cupboard under the stairs). The main reason for having your own space is just so you have somewhere to go if the world begins to get too much again. Preferable it would be somewhere with a good view to put things into perspective, so maybe not under the stairs after all. Overall just remember there are a lot of problems in the world and a lot of people trying to fight them, but you really don’t have to do it alone.
“No life is a waste, the only time we waste is the time we spend thinking we’re alone.” – Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet In Heaven.