Small Changes…

Although I said I wouldn’t be creating a list of new years resolutions, there is a couple of small things I’d like to try to do this year. I won’t class them as resolutions as they will just be on going improvements. Anyway here goes…

  1. Wear heels more – as a small girl I will always need more height, and what better way to solve this than with fancy shoes or boots! Also they of course add to the sex appeal…not.
  2. Not be on my phone as much – in today’s world we as a whole are anti social or ‘zombie-like’ if you will. So I think this is a good way to begin reconnecting with the world again.
  3. Go out more – I’ve never really been a drinker, but I’ve come to the realisation that I’m only young once. Also as the years go on my body won’t react as well with alcohol as it does when your younger…or so I’ve heard.
  4. Sing – I love to sing! Let it be known not very well, but what’s that to stop me. Confidence can pull off anything. Well almost everything.
  5. Save money! – Travelling isn’t cheap, and seen as it’s one of the things I want to do this year…I really need to save money.
  6. Try and find the perfect foundation – this is a constant battle. I hate spending money on something that never matches. They either dry my face out or turn me into a Oompa Loompa and that’s just not a good look!
  7. Use my camera more! – I love taking photos, I even took the time to set up a Facebook page for it…but I just don’t take enough photos. So from now on I’m going to just go on random walks every so often, plus it means I get to see the hidden areas of lovely Yorkshire!
  8. Listen to more music – I like a bit of everything when it comes to music, but it’s quite rare I just put my iPod on anymore. To add to this I’m also going to try to keep up to date with new music because I always seem to be a hundred years behind everyone else and never know new bands names.
  9. Let go – I try not to do this a lot but there just certain things I can’t seem to let go of, so its time. As Elsa says “let it go”
  10. Don’t over think! – This is just a constant battle as a girl. For some reason we all just seem to have a tendency to think way to far into everything so this year, I’m going to aim to just roll with everything and not think as much…we’ll see how that pans out.

LETS DO IT!

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Life means hope…

“There should be no boundaries to human endeavour. We are all different. However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at. While there is life, there is hope.”

– Stephen Hawking

I think this quote is brilliant. Stephen Hawking is such an inspirational man for so many reasons, but for me personally this quote alone speaks volumes. We should always have hope. Hope for many of us, is what keeps us going in the darkest of times. We all go through rough patches, but as long as you have hope in something, even if it’s just one thing…you can get through it. Hope that you’ll find a new love, hope that you’ll eventually find a career that’s right for you, or even hope that you’ll find yourself after becoming lost in the world. It’s only when you lose hope in everything, that’s worrying…

We also have to remember that everyone is different. What’s right for one person, won’t necessarily be right for everyone. So we shouldn’t be disheartened by not being able to accomplish things in the same amount of time as our friends or peers. Everyone has their own path with their own timing. And if you ever get lost due to circumstance or even emotions than be brave enough to make a new path, others may even follow. Basically don’t lose hope, it will be there when no one else is. Have hope, and you will find your way to your success.

Words of Wisdom

“Man alone measures time. Man alone chimes the hour. And, because of this, man alone suffers a paralyzing fear that no other creature endures. A fear of time running out.” – Mitch Albom, The Time Keeper.

This was the first quote I ever posted on my blog, and it still speaks wisdom… Humans do things that can actually make us worse off, time keeping being one of them.

However it also makes us aware about how precious life is, and how we shouldn’t waste it, or let opportunities pass us by…because it might be there one minute but gone the next. Be careful and wise but also have courage to be a bit reckless at times.

Bah Humbug?

So November has hit, and even before bonfire night has left our rearview mirror, people are already beginning to decorate for Christmas. Now I know what you may be thinking…Jeez what a Grinch! Who doesn’t love Christmas? What’s wrong with starting early? And I understand these views…but what’s the rush?

It’s seems like people start earlier and earlier as the years go on, and I honestly don’t think this is how it should be. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for the Christmas scented candles and the annual routine of Christmas films. But If you pull the Christmas season forward then you lose the spirit and atmosphere of Autumn. The crunchy leaves that mark your path home, the beauty of the baring branches against the sky as the sun is setting, and even the chill that allows you to see your own breath.

You may think that if you start early then you don’t have to rush around at the last minute…but I think that’s also what Christmas is about. Marching down the high street in December trying to weave between all the bodies to try to find that perfect gift for a loved one. I think too many of us try to rush through the year. I know time doesn’t wait, but maybe we could do a bit more to embrace each of the months and then we would also enjoy them a bit more. Instead of feeling like time just slips through our hands.

“When you are measuring life, you are not living it” – Mitch Albom, The Time Keeper.

Future? What future?

Once upon a time I had a future in mind. One which the majority of girls and women have. Dreams of getting married, having babies, having my own family overall. However…this is something I personally no longer see. Now don’t get me wrong, yeah it’s still a nice idea in my mind…but it’s just a lost image at the minute.

I’m not sure why this is, it could be one of two things. When I fell in love for the first time (being young and stupid), that was in my mind because I thought love in general was the strongest emotion. Strong enough to last forever. That may have been true on my part but you never really know what the other person is thinking, and so it ended with the future plans lost and the realisation that the future I dreamt of was one-sided and also that I was very naïve to think like that.

Another reason this could be though is just due to the fact I have also realised I have other plans for my life. Like plans to explore the world. And with that in mind…along with my age, the idea of the ‘picture perfect future’ seems to get further and further away until it’s out of view. I mean for girls there’s always going to be a time limit for having healthy babies, and once you pass a certain age there are difficulties. So I guess in a way this is also a contributing factor.

I’m sure a lot of people go through life and experience the same difficulties (if I can even class it as that), as I am having. Don’t get me wrong I am completely happy with life right now even though some days don’t go to plan…but when someone asks me what my long-term plan/idea is or where I see myself in 5-10 years down the line. I honestly have no idea what the heck to say. Do I give the false answer of a lost future, or do I tell them honestly and in some way disappoint them. Whether this is a potential employer or even my grandma. It seems a lot of my posts tend to be about being lost in some ways, and I guess I am…but that’s what life’s about. Finding yourself and finding your way. At the moment I’m just going along with it the best I can, with a positive attitude hoping I’ll find my mindful future again. Happy Sunday!

“Time is not something you give back. The very next moment may be answer to your prayer. To deny that is to deny the most important part of the future.” – Mitch Albom, The Time Keeper.

 

Judging Others

Wherever we are in the world, whether it’s out and about or just sat at home watching the television we judge others. The main question I’m going to give my opinion on is…why? Why do many of us judge, when we know nothing about them and probably won’t even see them again? I think the main reason is simply…because we don’t understand.

Yesterday I was on the bus, and in front of me was a woman in her 50’s. She was quite good looking, but overall an everyday person. Now I’m not especially a ‘nosey’ person, but when someone continuously repeats a routine none stop the whole journey you tend to take notice. The routine wasn’t exactly a unusual thing to do for a woman. Stroking her hair to one side, flicking it back then shuddering. But like I said after repeating it over and over again for at least 30 minutes, you notice it and begin to think it’s odd…which is the start of you judging them. Now I know majority of people will automatically think judging others is rude or even cruel…but doesn’t that in itself suggest they are also being judgmental by assuming?

The way I see it is overall there are two different types of judgmental people. On one hand you have the ‘judge a book by it’s cover’ people. It’s simple, it’s quick, it’s easy and it may even make you feel better about yourself in a way. But on the other hand you have the people that think a bit further into it. The people that consider the fact that they don’t know anything about this persons background, their life or even their mental or physical state. Now you may believe this is thinking a bit too far into it, but this also gives this person the option to widen their own knowledge and even give them the curiosity they need to look into what may have been wrong or what made the person the way they were. That’s the way I prefer to look at it anyway, hopefully other people do…but maybe that’s just me seeing the world through rose tinted glasses.

“In this moment, it is not wise to judge with your eyes” – Mitch Albom, The Time Keeper.

 

What films don’t tell you about love…

I have always been a hopeless romantic…

I believe it’s mainly due to films I’ve watched while growing up. Romeo and Juliet, Titanic, The Notebook, Dirty Dancing, Shakespeare in Love, Aladdin, the list could go on. Through all of these films we tend to see a lot of differences within the themes. Whether its the time period, the class of the different characters or even the realism of what happens in the film. But the one thing I’ve noticed in recent years is that majority of romantic films show just one type of love no matter what the variables are they class love as a collective feeling with no depth.

Now this is fair enough when your a teenage girl dreaming of Romeo scaling the walls to your house to steal a goodnight kiss. But as you grow up and begin to live your life making mistakes along the way, you come to realize that there isn’t just one type of love. I know what you might be thinking, all of those films do show different types of love. Enchanted love, forbidden love, love that lasts a lifetime. But that’s not exactly the types of love I mean. What I really mean is how the emotions, and your general idea of love can mean different things between you and different partners.

This isn’t something films really prepare you for as the way that films lay it out is that there is only one true love for each person. So if you lose that love, whether it’s due to growing apart or them being taken away by an illness that’s it. Gone forever…but that’s not true. I admit it will take some people longer then others to find something they can call love again, but it will happen. The only thing to remember is that when it does, do not hold back in fear of getting hurt.

After all love doesn’t have to be forever, feelings can change as often as seasons. Just as long as your true to yourself. If you feel it then let it be known. An expression of love is not written in stone and comes with no guarantee of anything other then right now. Take a chance.

““Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.”” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie.