Google was right!!!

So I was sat on my phone…like every Sunday evening, when a thought crossed my mind. When we get ill and have symptoms, what’s the usual thing to do nowadays? Google them. And what does it normally say? You guessed it! Your dying đŸ˜±

But on reflection…it is true. I mean it will happen in the long run. Sure some of us die earlier than others but eventually it does happen wether the symptoms impact it or not :/ scary but true. But that’s not to say we should stop living our lives just because of this obvious realisation we ignore. Anyway Sunday insight over.

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Be You!

“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you!” – Dr Seuss

In times of difficulty when writing, I tend to go back to simpler means.This is one of the simplest quotes I’ve come across. However It’s also very important. It comes from a children’s book, and in my opinion this is the mind frame all children should have growing up.

Everyone is different. Different genders, races, religions, sexuality, backgrounds. Every little detail that builds up a person…makes a person who they are. So no matter what anyone thinks, you should never give up the right to be who you want to be. Which is easier said then done. Because in this life there are a lot of stigmas, and bad publicity which leads to bad opinions. For example with a lot of issues regarding terrorism in the news, certain narrow-minded people begin to think and even spread that if one person is like that from a certain religion…then it must be a religious thing. Which of course is incorrect and leads to these victims either denying their religion or being seen in a negative light. Which is ludicrous.

Another example is if someone has a metal health issue, the same narrow-minded people will think that everyone who suffers with that illness will all follow the same path. Whether its suicide, murder, theft or anything else.

Slight tangent there but the point I’m trying to make is that the world is full of ill-conceived pre-judgements, and it probably always will be. You just have to learn to ignore it and have faith that in time the world may be a better place if we work towards a better future. People need to stop denying religion, denying different sexualities, and stop believing that they are alone in the world, because they aren’t…you aren’t. And in all honesty the internet is the best place to realise that right now, all you have to do is search a problem and thousands of results will come up, proving you’re not alone with whatever problem your having.

Overall don’t listen to anyone else, you are in control of your own life…your own happiness and that is what’s important. If you need support and you go looking for it, you will find it even in the most unlikely places. Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you! Don’t give up you to please everyone else.

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.”- Mark Twain

Lost.

Honestly…right now I feel lost.

Lost with myself, lost with where I’m going in life, lost in general. And in my personal experience when people feel lost, they begin to search for someone who can make them feel safe, feel found in a sense. Even a sense of security. Now in truth in the past I’ve known people do this, and I’ve often thought about doing this myself due to how magical love appears to be. But I think a different approach would be more suited to me right now, and this is also something many people suggest. Find yourself. Be happy with yourself.

With this I don’t necessarily mean be alone until I feel found (if that’s even a thing), because friends and family are always important. I mainly just mean I am not going to jump into a relationship, because in a relationship you have to think of both people and right now I need to be a little bit selfish. Plus saying that if you can’t be selfish right now then when can you? Because as the years go by there becomes a pressure to get into a relationship and make plans with that person. Starting from where to go on holiday together, to getting married and having kids. And that all means being completely considerate and that’s just not for me right now.

My main focuses are really to just find out more things about myself, stuff that I’ve never discovered. New passions, new skills, even new desires. Maybe I will also lose some bad habits I’ve acquired through other people, which wouldn’t be a bad thing. Alongside all of this though I will still be living in the real world and will aim to get another job so I can get money together to go travelling to all the places I’ve dreamed of. So now is the time. Time to leap and see what happens. Wish me luck.

“No matter what you’re trying, even if you fail in the beginning and people say you’re no good, don’t listen to them; Just listen to your own heart.” – Mitch Albom

What films don’t tell you about love…

I have always been a hopeless romantic…

I believe it’s mainly due to films I’ve watched while growing up. Romeo and Juliet, Titanic, The Notebook, Dirty Dancing, Shakespeare in Love, Aladdin, the list could go on. Through all of these films we tend to see a lot of differences within the themes. Whether its the time period, the class of the different characters or even the realism of what happens in the film. But the one thing I’ve noticed in recent years is that majority of romantic films show just one type of love no matter what the variables are they class love as a collective feeling with no depth.

Now this is fair enough when your a teenage girl dreaming of Romeo scaling the walls to your house to steal a goodnight kiss. But as you grow up and begin to live your life making mistakes along the way, you come to realize that there isn’t just one type of love. I know what you might be thinking, all of those films do show different types of love. Enchanted love, forbidden love, love that lasts a lifetime. But that’s not exactly the types of love I mean. What I really mean is how the emotions, and your general idea of love can mean different things between you and different partners.

This isn’t something films really prepare you for as the way that films lay it out is that there is only one true love for each person. So if you lose that love, whether it’s due to growing apart or them being taken away by an illness that’s it. Gone forever…but that’s not true. I admit it will take some people longer then others to find something they can call love again, but it will happen. The only thing to remember is that when it does, do not hold back in fear of getting hurt.

After all love doesn’t have to be forever, feelings can change as often as seasons. Just as long as your true to yourself. If you feel it then let it be known. An expression of love is not written in stone and comes with no guarantee of anything other then right now. Take a chance.

““Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.”” – Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie.